In part one he explains why he created it: Now, let me explain things to you like they are.When it happened to me, there was almost nothing out there to give me Christian guidance on what to do about it. And what was there, was, I discovered in retrospect, based on a false understanding of psychology and, even worse, a false understanding of Biblical marriage and sexuality.If you’re among the many couples who feel like you’re barely hanging on in marriage, the sobering truth is that you’re not alone. At least 60 percent of married couples will experience infidelity at some point in their marriage, says Dr. Harley Jr., a licensed psychologist in Minnesota and author of the best-selling book All kinds of reasons exist for this, many of which sound textbook in their familiarity—couples experience periods of sustained stress, exhaustion, or separation due to family needs or career obligations.Husbands and wives don’t feel satisfied with each other or deeply connected.The other day I mentioned Christian Men’s Defense Network.Given the familiar names in the discussion there and the nearly 700 clicks to his site in the stats since then I know that many of you have already gone over there to see what he is building.Almost all the stuff I found was about a guy cheating, not the woman cheating.This is despite the fact that female marital infidelity is a growing trend within the Christian community, one that the church refuses to deal with and likes to paper over. He had mine, even though it took me a long time to realize that. She will try to tell you she did this because she was “unhaaaaapy,” because you don’t listen to her, because you don’t communicate well, because you don’t keep the house clean (my ex-wife tried all of these). No, the Bible gives us only one reason that she cheated on you: Lust. Women lust too, even though, again, a lot of Christian pastors don’t ever mention that.
’” Forgiving the other person in the relationship should be the first step you take in deciding what to do.Well, definitive numbers are hard to come by, but most polls and estimates typically report that more than one-third of men and about one-quarter of women admit to having had at least one extramarital sexual act.If you factor in cases of "emotional infidelity" — where a spouse engages in an intimate (yet not sexual) friendship with a member of the opposite sex — the numbers are much higher, probably greater than 50 percent.If you are interested in a thoroughly Christian take on the issues we discuss here, this new blog is a must read.He has only been blogging for a week now but in that short time he has already easily demonstrated his talent. He has a powerful three part series (part 1, part 2, part 3) aimed at helping Christian men who were cheated on by their wives.